In this age of competition a student has to be very intelligent right from his childhood. In addition to be good in his academics, he requires special skills to establish his identity in this vast unfamiliar land where he has to traverse along.
To endure this prolonged journey of life, one has to develop
self-confidence from his infancy. There is a vast difference between confidence
and self-confidence. The first lead to the victory on not always being right
but also not getting fear to be wrong, and the second is the competence over
the complex and dangerous deeds by winning self. Self- confidence is related to
your self worth and your value. Confidence is a mental process that arises from
considering the capacity, if a person or thing is capable of something.
Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself considering a responsibility of
commitment and result.
We can never predict what kind of life we are going to have
or what circumstances can make us crippled. In order to overcome the unwanted
hurdles of our life we need to develop strong self- confidence and clear
vision. We should always rise with an appetite to know our inadequacies and
zeal for problem solving. We are never born with confidence from our birth as
it is well said, "Rome was not built in one day", and so is the
confidence.
The very first step towards success is to stop obsessing
about what others think of you. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of
others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if
you let them room for criticism. Who so ever had tried to do something
different must have chased the hard road to toil and thus you can look more
confident in long run. This will only be possible when we establish true
self-confidence and must concentrate on small steps towards success and forget
about the failures and the negatives in our life. So just chill yourself and
sincerely target yourself towards destination and hold your head high and
stand tall.
To build self confidence, we first need to be regular in our
deeds and we should divide our tasks into small steps as in the story "the
hare and the tortoise" we all have seen how impossible mission was made
possible by the tortoise; the steps were small but the theme was consistency.
The strongest single factor in prosperity of consciousness
is self-evaluation: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it,
believing you will get it. Self-confidence is the most important factor in our
life. It can be multiplied by feeling good, taking responsibility and being
accountable to failures. Today we all have made a veil around us and never try
to look beyond it and unnecessarily pretend our self with false and negative
images. We do generally show that we are over burdened with work and the rest
are enjoying the gala days. We need to learn the acceptance of our duty and
responsibility and rather than transferring it on the shoulder of others we
start accepting to say, "I am Responsible ".
The lamp of faith within us should always get the oil of consistency and there should be no dark clouds of disappointment. The major problem of our failure is that, we keep thinking what we have done is right and we don't critically express ourselves, where we went wrong. If we really want to conquer diffidence, then we need to defeat greed, hatred and jealousy, as these evils never let us pursue right path in our life.
Everyone is born with strength and weaknesses. We can develop
and excel our-self according to our environment and situation by sticking to
our principles and we have to be generous enough to accept our failures
positively and try to be adventurous enough to define our aim. Trust yourself,
know yourself better than you think, stop thinking what is not with you and try
chasing what is great in you that others don't have. The day you start thinking
so you're moving towards creation of self-confidence.
If we look at some great men who achieved success in their
life, it is their self-confidence, determination and consistency in their
thoughts and achievements. A great man is great in himself and what is in him
to be great is his self-confidence. Self –confidence teaches us to dream and
leads to attain the goal disregarding; the hurdles come across in our life.
Personalities like Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Winston
Churchill etc has great mission and it is their self-confidence helped to
overcome the problems and attain what they wanted. However you are rich,
intelligent and strong, without self-confident you will not cross the tunnel
and perhaps you may stand where you stood.
Steps to Master Self-Confidence.
- Tracking Inadequacies & Re-framing Failures: It is failure that pushes people into depression and insecurities. Find out your failures and start working on it. Have patience and faith within you and take the life the way it comes and be positive.
- Self Determination : Know your strengths, it alone will do miracles that you even never think off. Learn to evaluate yourself independently. Stronger sense of self will give you a platform and will prevent you from giving your personal power away to others.
- Lessons from Past Victories : Learn from your past mistakes, they are lessons for you and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future. "Treasure every moment! Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present"!
- Self Trust: Believe in the best, "Win yourself before winning others". It needs right acumen, true and sincere approach towards life and consistent commitment towards goal.
- Persistence: Persistence is the fifth and final pillar of self-discipline. Persistence allows us to keep taking action even when we don't feel motivated. So we should always have a zeal for persistence in order to remain in action.
Kavita Thapliyal
Business Communication & Soft Skills Trainer
www.visionsahead.com
